What to expect dating shy men validating mental health
Physical intimacy comes pretty slowly if the guys are serious about dating.
My husband and I didn't even hold hands until our fifth or sixth date, and our first kiss was several dates after that.
When it comes to dating Western women, we've noticed that Chinese guys tend to be shy and insecure.
In a post on her blog, Speaking Of China, Jocelyn recalls the story of a Chinese taxi driver telling her that he couldn't satisfy the needs of foreign women in a previous relationship. Chinese people tend to think Americans are rich and can't provide for us on their smaller salary.
"That's just how it is," is the response that most people give.
The opportunity to earn more money is often more lucrative than staying at home.
This must have been a huge letdown for him, but fortunately love won out.
So much so, that my husband didn't ask to date me, he asked me to be with him for the rest of his life. Compared to most of their Western counterparts, Chinese men start thinking about marriage much earlier in the relationship.
Compared to the way my husband grew up in post-Cultural Revolution China, the modest home I grew up in is a mansion.
He always paid on dates, but when he had the opportunity to get his research published in some professional journals and couldn't afford the fee, he was very hesitant to accept the money from me.
With filial piety being taught in school from first-grade on, I've found that Chinese adults take their parents' word very seriously.
Jocelyn's now father-in-law told his son that he was welcome to be friends with a Western woman but not to date her.