Dating fear being hurt
Falling in love can be a magical process if you let yourself experience it, and when you're willing to finally take this risk, you'll see that the reward is entirely worth it.I'm going to try and sum up with some practical points, to build upon what others have already (wisely) said. If you're dependent on another person, you're giving them the power to hurt you.It's also a good idea for you to take a much closer look at the person for whom you're falling. For example, while you may be self-sufficient, stoic by nature, and feel as though you don't need a partner's help or advice, you should still open up to this person in order to strengthen your relationship.Your partner is your teammate and biggest advocate, and even if you're not used to relying on someone else or letting your guard down, now's the time to break the barriers that you've built up inside yourself.The more independent you are, the harder it is for others to hurt you, because no matter what they do you will still be OK with yourself. This is an important one because the more you value yourself, the less likely you are to allow people who want to take advantage of you into your life.
And it was odd, but by learning to ‘sit with the feeling,’ I learnt so much: that you don’t actually die worrying about the unknown and that it can even be exciting.
Tasha Rube is a Licensed Master Social Worker in Missouri.
She received her MSW from the University of Missouri in 2014.
They see that you lack self-esteem or lack self-worth, and they prey on it. But each and every one of us is wronged by someone else at some time or another.
The only thing we can control is how we respond to the wrongdoing. You can choose to see yourself as a victim, or you can choose to reflect on whatever happened, decide whether you could have acted differently yourself, and if so choose to act differently in the future.